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Teach him to lead, not follow
No one raises a child to be one of “the sheep,” following the crowd
without a thought. This becomes especially touchy when older preteens
and teens engage in risky behaviors. Start your son with strong roots.
Give him safe opportunities to make decisions and learn from the
outcome. Allow him the room, within the arms of your family, to become
an independent, confident thinker.
Be a good sport
Although we would all like to, we can’t win every game. Teach your little man to be a gracious winner
and in turn, to view a loss as a learning experience. Encourage him to
express and channel his disappointment appropriately. Help him to learn
from mistakes and urge him to use them to improve and win the next
game. These life lessons are useful on and off the field. As he
matures, he will have the groundwork to know how to learn from
situations that didn’t go his way.
Teach him respect
As he grows, your little gentleman will learn that the world is full
of opinions, and those opinions won’t necessarily jive with the family
values that you have instilled in him. His beliefs will be challenged;
his opinions will be tried. Let him know that it is OK to respectfully
disagree with someone’s viewpoint and at the same time, have the
confidence and finesse to stand up for his own.
Demonstrate social graces
Look others in the eye when speaking. Shake hands when the situation calls for it. Be present
when interacting with others. Say simple but relevant phrases such as
“hello,” “goodbye,” “please,” “thank you,” “you’re welcome,” “how are
you,” and “good morning” when appropriate. Social graces are small and
simple ways to convey a big meaning – your son has impeccable manners,
as every gentleman must.
Give him an outlet for his energy
We all need a way to channel our stress and so do our children – girls or
boys. Give your little man an outlet to blow off steam based on his age
and interests. As he matures, your son will likely continue to find
healthy ways to channel his stress and clear his mind. Good habits form early!
Let your mini-man know the importance of telling the truth and respecting
confidences. Teach him the difference between keeping a dangerous
secret (a friend is being physically abused) versus small confidences
that mean a BIG deal to another (keeping quiet when his best friend
tells him not to tell anyone about his crush on Abigail in their fifth grade class).
Show him that generosity doesn’t have to be monetary. Maybe his
little sister could use some help with soccer drills, or grandpa would
love a hand cleaning out the garage. Get creative but keep it simple –
have your two and a half year old “help” you carry the mail. Give your
little gentleman chances to feel pride in a good deed, and teach him how
his time can mean more to someone than any dollar amount.